Toilet Training

We have been actively toilet training since Easter way back in April. We are not trying any particular method as such other than “Nappy free”. Luckily we live in the tropics so we can do this with out too much effort. We regularly take our little monkey to the toilet and we ask him if he needs to go. Mostly we do ok. He still hasn’t grasped the idea that he can go by himself.

It most certainly has not been smooth sailing. Anecdotally people say that boys generally learn slower than girls. I wouldn’t know I don’t have a daughter and certainly can’t remember my own toilet training days. For instance the asking to go to the toilet has now turned into an epic fail. Our little monkey seems to be exercising his control over toilet training. So any questions no matter how worded pertaining to the toilet usually ends in a loud and resounding NO. Usually the toilet questioning goes like this:

“Little monkey do you need to go to the toilet?”


“Are you sure?”

“I’m sure”

“Are you really sure?”

“Sure sure”

Just today I could see  a little bit of (sorry TMI coming up) poop hanging out (thank goodness he was outside) and I said “Little monkey let’s go to the toilet” “No” “But you need to go” “No” “I can see the poo” “No”.  I then sat in both horror and surprise as he crawled across the ground trying examine the poop coming out of him. Other times He will say no and then promptly wee. I don’t recall reading about how to deal with this situation in any child rearing book or toilet training guide.

Usually though we see the signs and get him to the toilet on time. I must also confess Day Care is wearing the brunt of toilet training as he is nappy free at day care (he actually does REALLY well at day care). But he seems to really respond to going with other kiddies on those little children toilets so at day care he rarely has an accident.

Like everything else concerning parenting there are so many different methods to how to toilet training. We are using of a mixture of a few techniques. Unsure if it is working but it is doing the trick so far. I have a couple of tips that we have found out fist hand (and anecdotally):

  1. Do not lose it and yell when your child has an accident – This one is hard especially hard when your tired and its the 3rd wee on the floor in a row. But it is probably the most important as I have heard to many stories of toddlers who refuse to go to the toilet after being yelled at.
  2. If necessary try different potties – your child might just not like the style of potty you have. We had little success with out potty but as soon as we got the step-ladder that attaches to your toilet we had a lot more success.
  3. Your toddler will probably regress – this seems to be almost a certain. So many people have told me that their fully toilet trained toddler will all of sudden stop being toilet trained. Usually due to stress, illness or a major change in the family.
  4. Use rewards – Find out what makes your little one tick. Maybe just applause and praise will work, or stickers, or treats. Our little monkey only gets stickers when he goes to the toilet so it is a reward for him.

Either way I can see we have a long way to go before we can claim our little man to be fully toilet trained.

Any tips for toilet training is appreciated.


A wee accident.

“I weed in my bed!!”
The call can be heard from all over the house, but it always seems loud enough to wake the neighbours too.
I do feel bad for her, usually. But some nights, it is so darn difficult to not get frustrated and get angry at her. When you’ve been dragged out of bed almost nightly for over two weeks with wet beds from your previously fully toilet trained four year old… well.. anarchy is afoot.
So seriously, I need your help! We are already limiting fluid intake for two hours before bed, making sure she drinks a lot during the day so she’s not thirsty then. She goes to the toilet before her shower, before bed, and I take her at about 10pm before we go to bed.
She’s getting sneaky. This morning she wet the bed, got up, got changed and didn’t tell any of us.

“wee wee wee”

The inevitable cry comes from down the hallway. This time it’s been a week. Sometimes we manage two weeks, once or twice it’s been a month. Tonight it was my fault, I forgot. I feel terrible, she gets so upset even though we don’t make a big deal out of it.

Bedwetting. It’s just one of those things. Some kids never wet the bed. Others have their parents convinced they will be graduating college in nappies. Some kids are fine as long as they go to the bathroom and limit fluids for around an hour before going to bed. Other kids seem to have “off” and “on” periods.

Did you know that genetics can play Into bed wetting? If you were a bed wetter, chances are good that your child will be, at least at some stage.

Mattress protectors, plastic sheets, late night toilet trips (parent initiated) and the ritual of changing sheets in the dark have become part of our lives over the last two years. Occasionally I feel frustrated that my nearly 4 year old still has these night time accidents, but reality?

It doesn’t last forever.

It’s not like 4 is the new 14. Or so I tell myself as I start the washing machine, and get her into the shower. Again.

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