7 Things i’ve learnt in the last month:

1. Remotes are more interesting than the hundreds of dollars worth of toys we buy

2 . that between 2pm and 3pm mummy can actually brush her hair & eat something….most days

3. that my husband, who can hear the TV channel change even when the TV is muted, cannot hear our 8 week old screaming from 2 metres away.

4. that silence isn’t necessarily golden! it usually means something’s getting broken or eaten.

5. That the girls, whilst unable to communicate yet, seem to be able to co-ordinate their screaming times

6. that going out now takes more planning than the D-day landing.

7. and finally, that i wouldn’t have it any other way………………..


Tips For The New Parent

Now before you run screaming at the thought of MORE TIPS! take a deep breath, centre your zen, and keep reading. This is the stuff they don’t tell you about in baby books or in happy reminiscing from family and friends.

So here they are, our top tips for when your baby arrives:

  1. Sleep when baby sleeps – this would have to be the top tip for obvious reasons. Sleep will be scarce in the first few months so sleeping when ever you can is vital.
  2. Towels have lots of them – you will use them for everything to start with. From protecting your mattress from leaking boobs, to cleaning up vomit on the floor. Have heaps of towels on stand by.
  3. Dont worry about house chores – just do the important stuff like cleaning the dishes and clothes. Things like dusting and vacuuming can wait (unless you have allergies or suffer from asthma). If your visitors make any comments tell them if they don’t like it to clean it themselves as you have more important things to worry about.
  4.  If some one offers to clean/cook let them!
  5. Before baby arrives, do a cooking bee – cook lots of meals that can be frozen and then reheated.
  6. Your nipples are going to hurt A LOT – those midwives who look down their noses and say “if you’re doing it right it won’t hurt” lied. At least to start with. Expect your nipples to be in tears inducing pain every time baby feeds. This will happen for approximately 3 weeks. Then one day poof no more pain.
  7. Breast Pump/Nipple Shields – Will give you a much-needed break from breast-feeding when your boobs are so sore the very thought of feeding your baby sends tremors through your body. Express some milk and let hubby take over for a day so you get a break. Also some mummies swear by nipple shields to help alleviate the pain.
  8. Make sure you are all set before feeding – ensure you have everything you need close by; glass of water, remotes, phone, book/mag etc. Make sure you have a dvd or shows to watch on your media player for those 1am wake ups. Trust me there is NOTHING on at those times. Unless you like infomercials then your laughing.
  9. One piece suit with buttons or zip from neck to ankles is ideal (obviously not to ankles in hotter weather).  Feet on the suit means you don’t have to bother with socks, but sometimes in slightly warmer weather it is better to have no feet.  Separate top and bottom and anything that requires getting over the head can be a pain.
  10. Singlet and nappy are fine if you live somewhere hot and tropical.
  11. A mobile over the change table is a good distraction and better than having it over the cot which can be over stimulating
  12. Baby books are expensive! Use your local library to borrow books (for both baby and you, you can change them all time at no cost!), and also check out their free services such as Rhymetime or story time for babies or toddlers.
  13. Go for a walk – Put baby into a pram and go for a walk outside. This could be harder though for those who actually get winter. Getting outside is good on so many levels. Helps baby adjust to night and day, mummy gets outside  (cabin fever is a real possibility), baby gets to see some new scenery, and mummy gets exercise. It also makes you feel good!
  14. Join a mummy group – wether it be online or in person this can be a valuable source of information and support. Dont be afraid to discuss anything with your fellow mummies.
  15. Dont stockpile a lot of newborn clothes and nappies. Your baby will grow really fast in those first couple of months and your little baby will out grow those newborn clothes quick smart. But do stockpile breast pads and maternity pads. You will be leaking from both ends for a good couple of weeks.
  16. If you already have kids prepare them before the birth by discussing it with them, and involve them with the baby stuff. A baby doll is a good way of helping them understand.
  17. Spend special time with other kids – it can be easy to get caught up with caring for a new baby and being sleep deprived. Get hubby to take the baby for an hour or wait till baby is sleeping, and spend some one on one time with your other child/ren.
  18. Let your older children be involved with caring for the baby. Perhaps they can pass you items while changing the baby or change the cot sheets.
  19. Check before hand that strollers/prams and car seat/s will fit in your car. Dont be shy about asking the shop keepers to let you try them in your car, or ensure they will let you return anything you purchase that wont fit.
  20. Baby Blues is normal – after birth your hormones are rampaging back to normal and you will experience random crying and crankiness. This can happen for a couple of days or a couple of weeks. If you are still feeling overwhelmed and upset after about 3 weeks seek help immediately. If you are not coping you may have Post Natal Depression. Get help as soon as you can.
  21. Dont worry about your weight – at least to start with. Let your body recover. We can’t all be like Angelina Jolie and have cooks, trainers and nanny’s at our beck and call. Enjoy having your baby and worry about loosing weight later. Also enjoy being a slob it’s probably the only time you will get away with messy hair, wearing pjs all day, and not giving a stuff about your appearance…bliss!
  22. If you have pets it is recommended to bring something of the baby’s that has their scent on it, home before you bring baby home. This lets your animals adjust to the baby’s scent before you bring your little bundle of joy home.
  23. Change your message bank/machine –  say something like ”Our newest family member has arrived. Her name is Julia Marie; she was born on Tuesday, and weighed 7 pounds, 10 ounces. We’re all fine and adjusting to our new life. If you’d like us to call you back when it’s convenient”. You can also send out a mass email, facebook status, or sms with a similar message. Also a way to deter people who” just drop in”,  is by putting a sign on your front door – “mummy and baby are sleeping please come back another time”. 
  24. Take a gazillion pictures – babies change so quickly in the space of three months your baby will look almost completely different. There is no such thing as too many photos! Also get yourself in the pictures too.
  25. Take time out for yourself – even if it is just an hour in the bath, just take some time for you. Again hand baby over to hubby or grandparents and take some time out for you. A massage is highly recommended.
  26. There is no such thing as spoiling your baby – so cuddle, rock, and snuggle with your baby as much as you like.
  27. Observe your baby – you will find at certain times of the day your baby will prefer to sleep, cry, cuddle, play, and etc. To start with a newborn will mostly eat and sleep. But as they get older they will start to show their likes and dislikes. Work around them. for instance if toxic (arsenic or witching) hour is 5-7pm try not to be cooking dinner then.
  28. Add at least a half hour extra to any  outing. It is amazing how much extra time it will take you to get yourself and baby ready. I now make sure the nappy bag is always stocked and ready to go so all I need to do is pick it up and go. Also does baby really need to be in that uber cute outfit you got them to go to do the grocery shopping? or is the little onesie just fine?
  29. Take it easy – don’t be moving that fridge by yourself just yet. Your muscles are not what they were before pregnancy and need time adjusting back and toning again. I know of mummies who threw their backs out just getting their baby in to their car seats!
  30. Make sure you and those closest to baby are up to date with immunisations – In some states/territories of Australia whooping-cough is free to parents and primary carers. It is also a good idea to get flu vaccinations and any other ones you can get. Last thing you need is to get sick and infect your child. Whooping cough is a growing problem in Australia. Check with your local health department and see what you are entitled too. Also a side night your babies first vaccination will be traumatic for you! make sure hubby is there so you can support each other.

Do you have any other tips?

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