Choosing a Name

Even before we became pregnant, my husband and I tried out several different names for our child. We both agreed we did not want a name that was overly popular. I remember one day my husband ruled out a name we’d been considering because a little girl at a restaurant had that name. Neither of us wanted to change up the spelling of a traditional name to be different. We also wanted to avoid names with obvious mean nicknames (although there’s only so far you can run away from that). The meaning of a name wasn’t such a big deal to either of us, but I always had to look it up–just in case. My most favorite game though was naming off all the names I didn’t like, some quite bizarre.

I don’t think we really gave serious thought to choosing a family name until much later, but once we got the idea in our head, we liked it. Then to decide which name . . . My husband came up with the first name, and I chose the second. Coming to an agreement about a name can be one of the most difficult parts of choosing a name, admittedly, I wasn’t completely sold on the first name right away. It took time to grow on me and now I can’t imagine her being called anything different. And the more I think on it, the more meaning each of the names we’ve chosen mean something special–representing women who we value, love and admire. Perhaps some of their qualities will carry down to our daughter through their names.

Of course, once she is born, we might have an epiphany and decide the name we’ve chosen for her is all wrong. While I think the chance of that happening is small, you can never tell, can you?

How did you choose your child’s/children’s name(s)?


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. caspette
    Jan 29, 2011 @ 17:52:43

    We were lucky we decided on a name right away. Just for fun I was reading out the top 20 names for 2008 and his name was on there (but way down the list). But we both went “yup we like that one”. We struggled with the middle name more ironically and hand’t fully settled on it till our son was pretty much born.

    Something you may not have taken into account are your little girls future initals. Make sure they dont spell anything rude LOL. Someone once said do a shouting test, the test being is the name you picked a name you would be happy shouting out in a public place? Also sound the name out in full to avoid any unfortunate pronounciations you hadnt thought of.

    There is soooo much pressure with naming your child way more harder then a pet.


  2. LiteraryFeline
    Jan 30, 2011 @ 00:24:39

    It’s great that you came to a name so quickly, Caspette! It sounds like you and your significant other were on the same page right from the start. Middle names can be so hard, can’t they? You want something that goes well in that middle spot.

    Yes, definitely watch those initials! We took that into consideration too when thinking of names. We haven’t done the shouting test per say, but I do try out her full name now and then to test the sound on my tongue. We’ve also used the name when signing in at restaurants to hear other people use it.

    I think any name anyone chooses is vulnerable to rude nicknames regardless, but some definitely lend themselves more to it that others.


    • caspette
      Jan 30, 2011 @ 08:49:45

      I like the idea of booking restaurants under the name!

      Its true about the nick names though. Someone already tried to call our son Noddy because he apparently had big ears. WTH I shot that one down straight away. But you cant help kids int he school yard and I figure as long as its not to bad to let it slide. At least if it cant be rhymed easily with a rude word or sounds like one then you greatly reduce the chances.


  3. Gayle
    Jan 31, 2011 @ 07:23:18

    We still hadn’t finalised a name almost a month after the birth, despite friends and relatives asking all the time. Both of us created a list of names we liked. I made mine by going through an online list ( We also asked his parents for suggestions for the second name, and my parents for suggestions for a Chinese third name. We went through all of the lists to come up with a shortlist, then put them in a spreadsheet to see all of the possible combinations and different orders to see which ones we liked best. Finally we whittled it down to three options, and it was the one we though suited our daughter best. Phew!


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